Parenting covers a lot of grounds, and one of them happens to be teamwork. No matter the complexities surrounding the relationship between the dad and mum, it is very important to know that those complexities should not affect how the children are brought up. I once heard a woman say, “her husband might not be the best husband, but he is the best father.” This statement made gave me goosebumps, making me unable to forget it. It means the husband does not let whatever quarrel that comes between himself and his wife affect how they train the children together, emphasis on together.
Growing up, my mum was harsh, and I could have sworn that I hated her at a point. But sometimes, my dad took the mantle of the harshness and rained it upon us, though this was on rare occasion. This made me run to my dad most times for refuge. If only I had known they were playing the “good cop, bad cop” on my siblings and I. What my mum corrected with harshness, was also corrected by my dad but in a more consoling way. It works like magic, and this can be achieved when;
Parents back each other up: What makes a disciplinary action stick better with the children is when both parents scold the children on misbehavior. It will be a bad move to make if the mum is correcting a misdeed, then the dad decides to support the kid. It just gives the child more confidence to misbehave, and since there is no agreement as to what is right and what is wrong, it will be difficult making corrections stick. Parents can decide to play the good cop, bad cop on their kids. So far they are both in on it, the children don’t have to know. They will have to decide how they want to be corrected, harshly or calmly.
Do not give up on each other: Relationships are tough, and no relationship can always be smooth. Having this in mind, parents should always be ready to forgive their spouse and settle disputes almost immediately. Because if they don’t and the children notice the rift between their parents, there is every possibility that they will take advantage of the situation.