Considering the fact that children are directly affected by actions taken by parents, it should be known that whenever the parents are not on good terms, the effects on the children are always adverse and this period is always hard on the children. As it affects them emotionally which may lead to an academic downturn and other downsides as follows:
It has a negative effect on the mental health of the children:
Though quarrels are not intentional and it occurs because both parties do not agree on one thing or the other, but with the detriments stated above from conflicts, it should be used as a guide to controlling the way misunderstanding occurs in the children’s presence and to ensure that such misunderstanding is professionally handled. Because like it or not, parenting is a professional course. Therefore, it is quite essential for the parent to avoid disagreement which might later result in conflict.
Most times, children who come from home where parental conflicts prevalently dominates, tend to feel unsafe about things around them, especially their safety at home and that of their parent. They worry about whatever goes on at home whenever they are not around, probably at school, therefore diverting their attention on worries instead of investing their attention on their academics.
Just like an average man learns from whatever he listens to or sees, the same way children learn unhealthy roles played by their parent. Whenever they engage in any kind of conflict with each other, if this conflict occurs on a regular basis in the presence of the children, they tend to develop nagging attitude over time, relating with other people outside the family or at school, irrationally.
Stunted Parent-Children Relationship:
Basically the children are meant to relate freely with their parent, but in a situation where the parents criticize each other, bringing up each other’s mistakes in the presence of the children, the danger therein is that the children tend to feel somehow restrictive about any of the parent been criticized, thereby inhibiting a cordial relationship with such parent.
Moreover, reducing parental conflict or putting an end to it, is possible, only if the parent involved are willing to. Disagreement is bound to come up whenever it comes to family matters, but trying as much as possible to avoid any form of argument in the presence of the children is a good starting point lest the adverse effects listed above comes up as a result of such argument. Eventually, if the misunderstanding gets out of hand and the children getting to know of this. It is important to let the children realize that a simple misunderstanding came up, reassuring the children that all scores will definitely be settled and nothing will take away the love in the family.