Parents are the role model to their children and the builder of the kind of relationship they want with their children either positively or negatively.

Moreover, children always learn new things everyday, and they do learn through observation, instruction, and experience.

The level of attachment they do have with their parent is always based on the premise of how emotional and available they are to them.

Some of the below-listed items of behaviors of parent are what is hindering the proper relationship with their children;

1. Lack of attention: The main visible way to know a responsible parent is probably through how much attention such parent give to their children. Some parents have all these care-free attitudes towards welfare and society well-being of their children, all that they care about is their job which is good for the provision for the family but also bad for required attention the children needs.
2. Being a model for what they want them to be: Parents that expresses only anger, hurt and hatred towards children without showing them love, affection and normal relationship that a parent should show to their children is always bad news.  Expecting a behavior opposite to that of the parents is like expecting honey from a Housefly (not possible), and this will affect the relationship between the parents and children negatively.
3. Killing their self-confidence in the early stages of their lives: Some parent finds it hard to encourage their children on how to express their feelings and the fact that their independent opinions are being needed. And from this, children will be using their behaviors to communicate and express their feelings instead of using their words with confidence and eagerness which may lead to violence and some unwanted behaviors.
4. Not showing them unconditional love with boundaries for behaviors: This is so key! In any parent and children relationship, by not showing love to children unconditionally and expressing it to them in multiple ways deters their understanding that there are acceptable and unacceptable behaviors, and that certain actions have positive and negative consequences.
5. Not providing basic needs of children: Some parent do not readily provide their children with fundamental needs, and this makes the children have inferiority complex among their peers in the society and schools. Actually, the factors that surround the situation of providing basic needs for children are divided into factions, because we have some parents that are really struggling to make end meets, while we have some who are sophisticated enough financially, and still really punishing their children deliberately and out of wickedness by not providing them with their needs.

A child that grows up without a functional bond with their parent can never have a secured attachment with them, which in turn is bad for the child and also at some point for the parent.