One of the toughest things to handle in a marriage is the difference in opinion about life and some other things, including but not limited to the raising a child. For example, daddy might believe in being an authoritative figure while mummy believes in raising the kids in tender care and love. This might cause a little misunderstanding between both parties. Situations like these are mostly unavoidable and instead of waiting to find out while in the process, here a few tips on how to handle the differences;
Have conversations with your partner: Theodore Zeldin once said and I quote “Conversation is a meeting of minds with different memories and habits. When minds meet, they don’t just exchange facts; they transform them, reshape them, draw different implications from them, engage in new trains of thought. Conversation doesn’t just reshuffle the cards- it creates new cards.” The quote simply explains the benefits of having a conversation, and since there might be differences in the parenting abilities with our partner, what better way can we use in attaining a common ground.
Set rules together: One of the pros of having a conversation with your spouse about parenting is the ability to agree on certain laws guiding the house. And a law that is bound to be effective is a law that is agreed by all involved power figure, in this case, you and your spouse. Therefore, deliberating with your partner on the rules to be implemented in regards to the children is an effective way to bridge the gap between spouses.
Support each other: Scolding children might be one of the hardest things to do for some parents, thus, a disagreement might spring when the need for scolding arises. In a situation like this, supporting your spouse in the presence of the children will be beneficial to all involved parties. And if one party does not agree with the scolding measures, it can be discussed right after in the absence of the kids. Though, there are times to be good cop, bad cop, this method should only be used when agreed by spouses.