The act of parenting is a sensitive job. Every single thing a parent does in the act of training their child sends a strong message and plays a huge role in that child’s life. Let’s take for instance comparing your kids with another person’s kid or one of your kid to another kid, something as little as this sends a psychological statement to a child which is – you are not good enough.
Imagine your child comparing you with other parents.
In this technological age, we come across really cool kids doing great stuff such as a special talent. There’s the tendency to want to compare your kids to such a child. Or it could even be that there’s a star child in your kid’s school who takes home all the prices, but your child always manages to take 4th place in class. Not every child can be a star child, and if your child is in the category of the average kid, it will do him or her no good to be compared to a star kid.
Before you start to compare your child with other children imagine your effort as a parent was compared to that of other parents. That’s the worst feeling any parent can have because you know how much you put into taking care of your kids. Do the same for your children so that they do not have the rotten feeling of rejection.
All human beings have varying capacities
Every human being is born with different abilities, gifts, and talents. Each person has something that makes him or her different. Comparing two different people will do no good because the one who is compared cannot be like the other.
When a child is born into the world, he or she always feels good and confident in himself. However, their level of confidence is determined by social stratification. Comparing your average kid to a star kid automatically reduces that child’s self-confidence. He or she begins to think he is bad at that particular activity because you are comparing his performance with another child. The child doesn’t get to know that he could do better. He just feels terrible at that particular activity. He may never want to try it again because of the fear of failing and being compared.