Do you remember how you felt when you were young? Perhaps you used to wish your parents were home more often or you feel like you’d have ended up better if your parents weren’t physically abusive? Remember how much you wanted to have your parents around. Remember how you wanted your parent’s marriage to work or how you couldn’t stand the arguments between them. Remember how you needed the encouragement from your parents, instead of your parent always comparing you with your sibling(s).
You wish all these things because they could have made you a better person. Though you can’t change the past, you can influence the future. You should:
Be the parent that puts your child to bed: As an adult, the troubles of life, the stress of work and the zeal to make enough money to take care of the family can be very demanding, so much that it requires you to leave the house before your child wakes up and return after your child has fallen asleep. Your child needs to see you more often just the way you wished you say your dad or mom often.
Be the encouraging parent that you needed: Your child needs to hear kind and supportive words from you. Your kid may not be doing so well at school but sometimes what might help him improve is not you scolding him for not always paying attention to his school work.
Be the observant parent you needed: A lot of kids have been molested sexually and any other way you can imagine because their parents didn’t seem to care where they went as teenagers, who their friends are or how they are doing in school. Keep track of your kids. Some challenges go with this when your child becomes a teenager. However, it is your responsibility to pay attention to your child.
Be your child’s best friend: The relationship you have with your teenage child depends on the bond you create with him while he was little. How do you do this? Have fun together. Take your child to a special place for just the two of you to share happy memories.
It’s easy to repeat what your parents did to you while you were growing up because it is the training you are familiar with. However, you must make a conscious effort to stop the cycle.